Being a makeup artist & hair stylist living in an incredibly multi-cultural environment, Toronto, I’m fortunate to have the opportunity to work with a diverse mix of brides of many cultures & traditional beliefs. It’s one of the things I love about living in Toronto. Here is an interesting read about MUSLIM WEDDINGS. The culture is beyond interesting, colourful and filled with many traditional ceremonies. I hope you enjoy reading this article. xoxo
Muslim wedding, known as the Nikah, is celebrated with as much grandeur and elegance as any other Indian wedding. And, when we hear the word- Muslim bride, our mind starts imagining a beautiful woman with distinctive eye makeup, royal sharara, and a remarkable jhoomar (head accessory). No doubt every woman looks her best on the day of her wedding, yet, there are many features that set a Muslim bride apart. Adding to that bridal glow, there are some beautiful wedding moments, which increase the beauty of the blushing bride manifolds.
And if you have never got an opportunity to attend a Muslim wedding, then get set to be a part of the Nikah of some of our beautiful Muslim brides right here.
THE JOURNEY BEGINS
The journey of a Muslim wedding begins with the Istikhara ceremony, where the religious heads of the community meet up to pray to Allah, and seek his permission and blessings for the wedding.
Thereafter, the groom’s mother visits the bride’s house with a gold or silver coin wrapped in a silk cloth. This cloth is then tied around the bride’s wrist. This is known as the Imam Zamin ceremony. It is after this ceremony, that the engagement takes place.
The ceremony of mehendi is one of the most exciting pre-wedding functions of a Muslim wedding. According to the custom, the bride’s mother is the first person to put a dot of mehendi on her daughter’s hand. And later on, other relatives can draw that special bridal mehendi. It is also believed that after the mehendi ceremony, the bride should not step out of the house until the wedding day. And as we all know that the darker the colour of the mehendi, more blissful married life the bride will have.
THE ELEGANT ATTIRE
There is no traditional colour that a Muslim bride is obligated to wear on her wedding day. She is free to pick the colour of her choice, as well as the outfit of her liking.
However, most of the brides still prefer the traditional sharara as their wedding day outfit. These days, even a lehenga with velvet blouse is also quite common.
And like the other traditional Indian brides, many Muslim brides also cover their heads. However, it is not mandatory.
MUSLIM BRIDE’S JHOOMAR
A maang tikka is an important ornament of a Muslim bride’s attire. It is immaculately noticeable and a completely elegant piece of jewellery. Apart from wearing the one worn in the centre of the head, the Muslim brides wear another maang tikka, known as the jhoomar or passa. It is usually a triangular fan shaped accessory, and is worn on the left parting of their hair.
Needless to say, every Muslim bride looks resplendent wearing this piece of jewellery. The rest of the jewellery that a Muslim bride wears is also quite intricate and heavy.
THE NIKAH CEREMONY
During the Nikah ceremony, the bride and the groom are made to sit in separate rooms, or there is a curtain between them, so that they cannot see each other. The Maulvi (priest) recites phrases from the holy Quran and then waits for couple’s approval to accept it. It is after the joyous tones of qubul hai, a wedding is said to be solemnised.
The groom pledges to be obedient and faithful towards the bride, and the bride in return pledges to remain supportive to her forever.
We are sure just like us, even you are mesmerised by the charm of these gorgeous brides. They truly are a union of elegance, beauty and royalty.
“I wasn’t born when I was born… But I was born when you were born… For all that matters in this world is, love!” says the bride’s sister in her toast to the lovely couple- Faiz and Fajr. And, this is what sums up the wedding that we are talking about.
We have seen it all- the bride’s mehendi, groom’s lavish entry, couple exchanging the ring, the huge buffet, rituals and traditions, and the tear-jerking vidaai. But this time we have spot a wedding film that will definitely make your heart melt with emotions. Take a look at this beautiful nikah video:
This video will touch you because of its emotions, behind-the-scene moments, and the candid expressions of the couple and their family members. It captures all those small moments, complete with smiles and tears that just cannot ever be pre-planned.
The idea is not just to focus on the visuals and lite up the day but to portray a phase of the couple’s life-changing moments. Focusing on the buffet, décor and dance, and other additional elements has become secondary over here. The video here immortalises and highlights the candid mood of the couple, and their dreams and desires as they embark on a journey of love.
You will find yourself even more engulfed in the emotions of the couple when you see moments like- when the bride cries remembering her late father or when she smiles as the groom fixes her dupatta, or when the groom kisses her hand as she is crying during the rukhsati, or when her sister cannot control her tears as she gives a toast that sums up everything that any couple wishes to say to each other.
Then there are those other moments as well where a bride talks about her dreams of her future with her groom, and the groom expresses his desire to capture his wedding in a way that will always stay with them. Faiz and Fajr, make us a part of their love story, their proposal story and then their wedding story.
This wedding film also beautifully illustrates the bond between mom and her son and her sheer joy when she sees him growing and becoming a groom. It brings together the emotions experienced by family and friends during ceremonies, the shots of the bride and groom getting ready, taking vows, and looking at each other as husband and wife for the first time through a mirror.
6 Things That Always Happen In A Typical Indian Arranged Marriage
After a lot of permutations and combinations, you finally make peace with the whole idea of getting married. But at the same time, you can’t debate the universal truth about marriage (be it love or arranged), that it makes everybody nervous. And you will agree that when it is an arranged marriage, the intensity of the situation is crazier than ever. Because we all like to believe that a known devil is better than an unknown friend. Jokes apart, it’s difficult to define what an arranged marriage is.
But it is quite like a jigsaw puzzle where one needs to be patient and clear while putting the colourful pieces together. Of course the journey of finding the right person in an arranged set-up won’t be that smooth, but no matter what, the bitter sweet feeling it will bring along will always remain special.
If you are set to walk down the aisle or contemplating marriage anytime sooner, here’s what you are most likely to experience, and if you have already gone through this, just sit back and enjoy and tell us if we missed something.
- Good looks don’t work.
Let’s accept it, looks do matter. Any guy would love to marry a girl like Aishwarya Rai, and any girl would love to marry a Greek God sort of guy like Hrithik Roshan. But the point is, is it worth being all dreamy about your future spouse and not being realistic with your expectations? Certainly not!
So, while considering an arranged marriage, it is extremely important to set realistic goals and set the right criterion for your future spouse. Besides how he/she looks, you need to focus on every parameter before you embark on spouse hunt. Focus more on the character and nature of a person than just looks. Because, it’s simple. Looks don’t matter in the long run, but compatibility does!
- Juggling between different profiles is confusing.
This is the next phase you will invariably enter once you are done registering and uploading your profile on different matrimonial websites and other forums. Your next point of focus is reviewing and shortlisting profiles. It’s fun yet tiring. While there’s nothing wrong in analysing a profile, but putting even the minutest of detail under scrutiny is not always a good idea.
So, decide on a timeline (for yourself) and move swiftly while at it. Exchange information frequently to initiate the next phase of casual interaction so that you get going in some direction.
- You can’t escape the legendary first meeting.
The next step post shortlisting and information exchange is the interaction phase that takes place on that legendary first meeting. This more of a formal interactive phase will involve lot of small talks on superficial things like job, work, their respective families, etc but just stay put and play along. This may have a snail pace but every step will get better with time. Cutting long story short, give this iconic moment a chance to see how it unfolds and most of the times, this is what you will remember the most till the end.
- The exciting beginning of family meetings.
Based on the information exchanged between the girl and the boy, or let’s put it this way, based on how courteous the girl and the boy managed to be during their first meeting, the respective families gear up to take charge. This period can be a bit tricky. Maybe that one meeting was not enough for you or maybe the person you met feels it’s too soon to involve families. But either ways, the families are a part of it now and you just have to go with the flow.
- Officially together, not really!
This is going to be the best time because finally you are no longer under the scrutiny, no one is closely judging you! You can chill, hang out together, meet each others’ friends, and get set to explore the romance angle, with no restrictions whatsoever! Well not exactly, around this time, maybe movie dates, dinner dates and if you are lucky, maybe a party night is allowed, but we guess, it’s enough till you are officially engaged. But do make the most of this time. Use this time to know each other better, tell each other your fears, your passion, your dreams, share as much as you can.
- Engaged – almost official!
Having met a couple of times, having understood each other’s temperment, knowing what your future spouse likes/dislikes, you have finally reached which can now be called a full circle.
No matter how cliché it may sound, all marriages, both arranged and love need constant nurturing and understanding. The good thing that comes with it is the lifelong companionship of someone you love and relate to! So, no matter how excruciating these phases may seem, enjoying them, with the perspective of having someone tcampatible, is what will make this journey enriching and enjoyable!
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